Another weekend, another meetup. Actually, all of a sudden
there were loads of things happening last weekend – like the Rose Marie Seoir
tea party in London and the Sheffield Film and Comic Con. However, since I knew
about this meetup for much longer, as well as thought it best to do something a
little more chill the weekend before Dublin, off I went to Manchester to see
the exhibition of prints by Francisco Goya and William Hogarth.
| Alice and the Pirates Rosier Fleur JSK | Infanta Swan Lake blouse | Shinku Rose Tulle Overdress | Alice and the Pirates Arabesque OTKs | everything else is offbrand | |
Kept my makeup very natural, although I did wear false eyelashes (not that this photo shows them off in any way). |
My initial idea was to try a gothic coord in all-white. In
the process I realised just how much white gothic relies on cuts and that
everything I own is either too classic or too sweet. So instead I decided to
put together all the pieces I haven’t worn out yet: the AatP Rosier Fleur JSK, the kokoshnik
headdress and the tulle overdress from Shinku Rose. This was also the first
time in literally years when I had my hair left straight and parted in the
centre, like it naturally wants to do – in general. Normally this would make me
feel super anxious, but with the kokoshnik on I just felt ridiculously
connected to my Slavic heritage (even though kokoshnik is a Russian headdress,
not Polish) and even jokingly said that if someone asks why I’m dressed like
this, I’d tell them that I’m a Russian mail order bride.
To be honest, when I put this coord together, I wasn’t
thinking much beyond this. However, the response I received already on social
media (Instagram and Closet of Frills) has been so overwhelmingly positive,
that I’m genuinely shocked. Reading the lovely comments that people have left was
both elating and humbling. If you were one of those people – thank you so much!
It will probably be some time still before I’m truly over it (although I don’t
want to be over it).
The meet itself had a bit of a rocky start. Before I even
set off the organiser said that she couldn’t make it as she fell ill, and then
another person said the same thing. However, there were still a few people
marked as going, so I set off. It takes me about an hour on the train to get to
Manchester, which isn’t the worst journey (it was a direct train too), but the
gallery was on the opposite end, so I decided to catch a bus. It wasn’t until
then that my phone caught some 4G and I could see that a handful of people went
somewhere else to eat – and not until I actually got to the gallery that it
turned out they weren’t coming to the gallery at all! Luckily, in the few
minutes of indecision it turned out that one other person was already at the
gallery too, and another one soon joined us. And when I messaged my boyfriend
in that fleeting moment of anxiety at being the only one who did what they were
told to, he offered to come to my rescue, which was incredibly sweet of him. So
all in all, it was good in the end and having spent few hours in fantastic
company, I can now move on from the trauma of that first half hour in
Manchester last Saturday.
The exhibition was absolutely fantastic! My knowledge of
Hogarth was literally non-existent and I know only one painting by Goya, The Third of May 1808, which I learnt
about in school. The exhibition focused more on the prints, etchings and
engravings by both artists, which were often heavily political commentaries and
criticism of the world around them. It was fascinating to see how both artists
had absolutely wild imagination (especially Goya, his art was often more
paranatural, whereas Hogarth’s leaned more into caricature) and also how
relevant many of their works still were. Granted, none of us had much knowledge
of art and art theory, so we amused ourselves by narrating what was happening
on these prints, nonetheless I found many pieces that I genuinely liked and
have a newfound appreciation for William Hogarth in particular.
This one I dubbed 'The Afterparty. By William Hogarth, |
By William Hogarth, |
Me being amused that in 1763 Hogarth had a pug named Trump. It was ugly too. |
The 'I Said No Portraits' pose that all lolitas know too well. By William Hogarth. |
Goth kitten is goth. By William Hogarth. |
After this we decided that food was in order and went to the
gallery café. The food there was definitely nice, albeit definitely on the
artsier/more artisan and therefore pricier side. After realising that a bowl of
soup and a slice of brownie would set me back £7, I very quickly opted out of a hot drink and stuck to water, which
was free. Having said this, the weather was pleasant – overcast, but warm – so we
sat outside and chatted about anything and everything. It later turned out that
for one of them this was her first lolita meet ever, so I’m all the happier
that she had a good time (and it wasn’t even my meet!). After this we took some
photos and casually strolled down Oxford Road, continuing the chatter, until we
reached Oxford Road train station, where we parted ways.
As someone
who’s used to large comm meets, I’m always grateful for the opportunity to take
part in a smaller, more intimate one. It’s a shame that the rest of the people
decided not to go to the gallery in the end, but I had lots of fun with the two
other girls. Hopefully I’ll see them both again soon.
For now,
all my attention is directed towards Dublin! Though now that this meet’s outfit
set the bar so high, I am worried if what I planned for this will live up to
expectations. It’d be just a tad awkward when your ‘I want to wear new things’
outfit beats the one you spent months planning and prepping, and aiming for
that tea party OTT level, wouldn’t it? :P
This outfit is so extra and I am very much here for it. The headdress is absolutely stunning and looks perfect on you. I completely understand why it must have made you feel connected to your heritage! There's something about wearing things that nod to one's culture that makes you feel very powerful and beautiful <3
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear the beginning of your day was so stressful. I can only imagine how alarmed you must have felt as you traveled to somewhere it seemed like nobody else was going to be, and I'm pleased you managed to have a small meet at the museum as previously planned. I had a similar situation happen in the past that did not end so positively, with most people not turning up and the ones who did barely speaking to one another so I ended up going home early and was so miserable I couldn't face making a blog post about it! It put me off going to open meets for an entire year hahaha. Sometimes these things happen but it can be super disheartening. I'm glad you didn't let it get you down and are looking forward to your Dublin trip!
I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourself when it comes to "outdoing" this coord. Sometimes our best ideas take us by surprise, or happen almost by accident. If your planned event outfit isn't as flashy, that's ok, and I'm sure it will be wonderful nonetheless ^_^ Honestly, I'd count this coord as an achievement-- the fact you managed to look that badass for a small meet without even thinking too deeply about it takes a level of skill I certainly don't have!
I am very seriously considering getting another kokoshnik and black is at the top of my list, closely followed by wine. (Because I'm having much more luck finding gorgeous wine kokoshnik headdresses than I am trying to find a wine bonnet.) It's a shame that Polish people decided not to do anything like it, however, traditional Polish dress for women involves oversized flower crowns, which I can also get on board. Although my dream would be to have someone recreate the traditional Polish dress (well, one of it's better known incarnations) as a lolita dress: https://folkstar.pl/categories,show,20,1,,,,stroj-lowicki.html - all this needs is *slightly* shorter hemline and the rest already works with a very folklore-inspired country lolita. It will happen one day :D
DeleteOh no! I'm so sorry to hear that it happened to you. It does suck when you make the effort for something like a meet and it doesn't go well. For me lolita meets are something I really look forward to and will make effort to travel further just to dress up and be with likeminded people, they're a big part of my social life. I guess even though this one had a happy ending for me, it has put me off going to Manchester for a little bit and I might focus on places a little closer to home (Leeds/York/Sheffield) for the time being.
That is so well said, thank you for it. You're right, that is a fair bit of unnecessary pressure to put on oneself. What matters is to feel good in the clothes we choose to wear, not how popular they are on social media. Thank you for reminding me of this. :) And it's definitely an achievement, it feels like a whole other level of putting coords together!