Recently I seem to find a new interesting lolita event at
least once every few months. Sometimes they are more like bigger meetups that
are open to everyone, while other times they are genuinely large ticketed
events with all kinds of extra fanciness thrown in. Having remembered times
when Tea Party Club’s anniversary, Street Fashion Europe, Hellocon and the
Angelic Pretty Tea Party in Paris were the only international lolita events in
Europe, constantly seeing new ones pop up is both exciting and overwhelming. I
started a thread in my comm’s Facebook group and as of July there were 9 events
there already, all between September 2019 and May 2020, and I fully anticipate for more to appear for later in 2020. For all my best
intentions, I physically can’t attend every single one – I don’t have enough
funds or enough annual leave to use, plus until recently my nearest airport
only offered direct routes to a limited number of destinations. How to decide
then? Here’s how I do it.
When and where?
While travel
within Europe is cheaper than to other continents, there are still places and
times that are cheaper than others. Especially when having limited annual leave
to take (and when unpaid leave may not always be a viable option), this is the
first and often biggest hurdle to overcome. As we all know, time is money, so
it’s about the cost of getting to the location as much as it is about the time
it takes to get there. How much luggage can I take and will I fit in that? What time will my flight land? Can I safely get from the
airport to my accommodation at that time and at what cost? What accommodation
options are available? How near are they to the event venue? If they’re far,
how much should I budget for public transport and how reliable is public transport there? Is the event during peak or
off-peak times for that destination? Do I have any important commitments at
that time (family, work, other)? All of these and more can make or break a
potential trip before even looking at anything else. This is also when timing
is of the essence, as the earlier you know about the event, the better your
chances of finding a good deal on travel and accommodation, as well as planning
the rest of your life around that trip. All of this is assumptions for a solo traveller (which I often am). If driving and car share are an option for you, this may also swing your decision.
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Just because the world is more connected than ever doesn't mean that you
will be able to go everywhere at any time. |
What is the event?
Before we even get to the cost of the event itself, a lot
rests on what it actually is. To me this means primarily: a) what is the theme;
b) who is organising it; and c) who are the guests in attendance. Let’s break
this down further.
The theme
As much as I may like everything else about the event, if
the theme is not to my liking, I probably won’t go. Not because the event won’t
be good, not because I wouldn’t enjoy myself, but because at this stage, with
so much choice, I would rather prioritise an event that is 100% to my
interests. A good example is the upcoming Museum of Oddities event in
November/December in Madrid. I thoroughly enjoyed myself in Madrid last year: I
enjoyed the city, made some great friends and the team behind the event are
guaranteed to put on something enjoyable. However, the theme seems better
suited to gothic lolitas, which is not my primary style. So given that there
are plenty of other events happening, I would rather save some money and attend
something else, instead of trying to come up with a darker coordinate to match
the event theme and to look at things (fashion show, shops etc.) that are not
my primary interest. I know that it will still be a good event – it is simply not
quite for me.
The organisers
This is insanely crucial. Ultimately, how well the event
runs depends solely on the people putting it on. Of course, there are always
unpredictable hiccups happening, but how the organisers handle those is also
vital to ensuring that everyone is satisfied. You are trusting these people
with your money to deliver the experienced they advertised, so you want to have
confidence that they will handle it well. Is this the first time these
people/that team is organising an event? Can you find any reviews of the past
ones or can you talk to any past attendees who can shed some light on this? Is this a big team (e.g.
Street Fashion Europe) or a smaller one (e.g. Amor Barrocco)? If it’s the first
event by that person or team, how long have they been members of the lolita
community? Do they have any experience of international events or of organising
large meetups such as ILD? Are they respected in their local comm and/or
internationally? Have you heard of any drama surrounding them? You’d be
surprised how often people who don’t have a good record in their own comm try to do something bigger for the wider community (look out
for people saying “I’m in the same comm as X, the event is in my hometown and I am not going”, then ask yourself why is that). Finding this out may be hard if
you’re very new to the lolita fashion community, but don’t be afraid to ask
questions. Check if someone else in your comm knows anything. If the event page
lists organisers as some sort of public page, instead of specific names, ask if
the organisers could introduce themselves. Once you’ve been around for a while,
even if you haven’t attended anything, it will become easier to find out whose
events you can have confidence in and whose might need prodding a little bit
more before you give them a chance. This isn’t to say that people who are organising an event for the first time or who may not be widely respected in their community can’t put on a good event. This means that it is up to you to decide whether you’re confident in giving them that chance, even after your stalking and questioning, as well as whether you’re willing to risk it considering the cost of the event (more on which further on).
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I trust Amor Barrocco to do a great event, they are a solid team!
Picture from the Amor Barrocco Facebook page, taken by Zazi White. |
The guests
Once you’ve been to a few events, there will
have been some guests whom you’ve seen multiple times and some you’ve never met, maybe even never heard of. If the main guest is
someone new to you, then do you feel excited enough to meet them?
If you have attended an event with them already, then would you like to do so
again based on the vibe and their interactions with the attendees last time, and
your support for them/their brand? It’s also worth checking whether the main
guest is someone who attends a lot of events or someone who doesn’t or who’s
never done one before. A guest like Triple Fortune seems to have a
continuous worldwide tournée – if you aren’t feeling the theme of this particular
event, you may still see them at another one. On the other hand, if the guest
is someone coming for the first time (e.g. Emily Temple Cute at Traumerei) or
someone who hasn’t attended much lately (e.g. Yumi Fujihara from Innocent
World), then it may be better to jump at the opportunity while it’s there,
since you’re already considering it. There are also some guests who interact
much more with the attendees than others. While Mana-sama’s appeal is that he
is distant and mysterious, I know people who have gotten a slightly standoff-ish vibe from Angelic Pretty’s Maki and
Asuka at Dream Masquerade Carnival, as they only got to meet them at the end of
that very long and tiring day (and this will likely be vastly different from someone who met them that morning, both of those people’s impressions are equally valid, so do your research). On the other side, guests like Triple Fortune or Haenuli
make very active effort to talk to everyone and to interact. And then you get
those in-between ones, e.g. Fumiko-san from Enchantlic Enchantilly who wants to
interact, but finds herself stopped a little by the language barrier and innate
Japanese shyness. Also, how much guest interaction you get will depend on how big the event is (the more intimate the event, the easier that is), as well as often on ticket tier. Consider how much you want to meet the guest, how likely you
might be to meet them again and how much interaction you could reasonably
expect to get as an attendee (and how much of it you personally want) when
making your decision. And this applies to all guests, both main headliners and
other ones, including direct vendors where you might also get to meet an indie
designer. Just because someone is not an event headliner doesn’t mean that you might not want to meet them, especially if their brand is based on another continent as you are.
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| This is still one of my most precious mementos! |
What is the total cost?
The more things you can anticipate and calculate, the more
informed your decision will be on whether you can attend or not. For starters, you need to take into account the event ticket of your choice, accommodation and transport to/from the
place (including transport to/from the airport and the venue, where
applicable). To be more specific in your budgeting you could consider things
such as food, your shopping allowance (leave some room for flexibility, as many
announcements of vendors etc. are made later and currency exchange rates fluctuate), any pieces you expect to buy for your coordinate (including cost of crafting materials where appropriate), any additional attractions you might want to see/do or even any
presents/souvenirs you anticipate buying. Some of these costs, namely
accommodation and meals, you might be able to split with friends. Other costs,
like ticket or transport, you may have options between cheaper and pricier
options to suit your needs. Knowing what the whole thing could cost you will
help you determine whether you can afford it or not. Or how much you might need to
save up for it. Oftentimes it’s not necessarily that the event is expensive,
but that we’re not budgeting for it properly. Anticipating to need, let’s say,
£600 total for all of the above will help you put away a chunk each month or remind you not to
impulse buy when you have the event coming up. And again, the earlier in
advance you know, the easier it will be to save up, as well as evaluate your priorities (e.g. do you want lots of money to shop or not) and get good deals
on things that you can get for less.
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Sometimes events don't work out even despite our best intentions and efforts. Stay positive and
focus on other events you could attend instead of dwelling on the one that slipped away. |
Who else is going?
It may sound mean to put this last, however, on a personal
level it is much less of a priority than the other ones. Don’t get me wrong, I
love going to events and sharing rooms/apartments with friends. The spirit of
getting ready together and being hype together is simply wonderful. Yet
ultimately, with so many events happening, a time comes when an event that my
friends aren’t interested in, which I still wouldn’t want to miss out on. This
one is incredibly subjective – some people would not go to an international
event on their own, whereas others are happy to give making new friends a go.
It might also be that an event that you couldn’t afford on your own becomes
much more manageable when attended with friends. Havind said this, remember your online friends. In such a niche community like lolita it’s common to meet a friend via social media and being able to meet them in person at an event is just as special as travelling with a group. Knowing who else is going will
potentially affect your financial ability to attend, as well as could improve
your emotional wellbeing during by providing you with a support network. Figure
out which type you are and if in doubt, ask yourself which one would you regret
more: going on your own or not going at all. Again, this may be harder to
figure out if you’re new to the lolita fashion community – how could you know
when you’ve not experienced much yet? – but on the flipside, doesn’t that mean
you have more to gain and less to lose? Only you can answer that question and
then weigh it against the other factors.
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Whether you travel together or meet there, friends can vastly
improve an event! |
What to wear?
This isn’t actually a big factor in deciding whether to attend an event or not, plus
it’s more linked with event theme. But if something comes up and you can
instantly visualise exactly the outfit that you’d wear, then isn’t this a sign
to at least try to make it happen? This is one way the lolita universe can tell
you to buckle up, do some savings or take some overtime to go to a particular
event and have some fun.
(On a serious note though, don’t base your entire decision purely on that,
check the finances first!)
Apologies if this has been less helpful to my non-European
audience. I realise that not everywhere is as spoilt for choice with various
lolita fashion exclusive tea parties happening and that many of you might be in
a place where you’re lucky to have one. If that’s you, I hope that you’ve
nonetheless found this useful in terms of general deciding whether to attend a
meet or not (since all of this is transferable stuff) and maybe found some
interesting nuggets here and there.
So speaking of events, are there any that you are planning
on going this year or next? I will definitely be at Strike a Pose in the
Netherlands this September, I’ve already bought tickets for Imperial Garden in
Belgium next year and am going to move Heaven and Earth to make sure that I
attend the 10th Gothic Lolita Festival event in Russia in April next
year! And whatever else I might manage in the meantime (which may not be that
much more, but I’ll do my best).
* Thumb image by Bradley P. Johnson.
